Who does what for Mom?
When one person ends up doing it all, everyone feels it. List the everyday jobs, share them out and see at a glance whether the load is fair, with Mom still in the mix.
Jobs a month in an example family. One person carries most of it, often without anyone noticing. Let’s fix that.
1. Who’s in on it?
Siblings, partners, grandkids, friends and neighbours. Far away counts too.
2. Share out the jobs
Pick who takes each one and how often it comes up. Leave it on “Who?” if nobody has it yet.
A fair split on paper is a start. Pearl keeps it fair.
In Mom’s private Circle, everyone sees their jobs on one shared calendar, gets a reminder and can swap when life gets busy. Mom sees who’s coming and decides what each person can see.
- Everyone gets their jobsAn invite to the Circle with just their part, when you’re ready.
- Swap without the back and forthCan’t make Thursday? Ask the Circle and someone says yes.
- One calendar with remindersRides, visits and errands in one place, so nothing slips.
- Mom stays in chargePrivate by default. Nobody is invited until you say so.
When life changes, so does the split
Everyday jobs just get shared. Bigger moments start with a conversation that Mom leads. Each guide has an example plan and questions to talk through together.
Coming home from the hospital
Who drives, who stays and who brings dinner in the first two weeks.
Read the guide Discussion guidePlanning to downsize
Sorting, selling and moving day, with Mom deciding each step.
Read the guide Free checklistIs everything in place?
23 checks families wish they’d done sooner, from the spare key to the hospital plan.
Take the checklistQuestions families ask
Is this free?
Yes. Split the jobs as often as you like. Starting a Circle in Pearl is free too.
Does anyone get contacted?
No. Your split stays in this browser. Nobody is contacted unless you start a Circle and choose to invite them.
What if one of us lives far away?
Plenty of jobs work from anywhere: paying bills, booking appointments, ordering groceries online and regular calls. Read our guide to helping from another city.
Do we need to talk to Mom first?
For everyday jobs, just share them out as they come up. That’s part of living. For bigger changes, like a move or help at home, start with Mom. Our life moment guides help you open the conversation.